Looking for ways to pray during a break-up? I totally understand. Two of my close friends have gone through break-ups this summer and I know the struggle of knowing what exactly to pray for them.

Back in August, I wrote a post about two ways to comfort your friend when she’s going through a break up. One of these ways was praying for your friend.

Today, I thought I would share 7 ways to pray for your friend during her break-up. These are a few of the things I prayed for my own friends during their break-ups.

This list of things can be prayed for either yourself if you’re going through a break-up, or for a friend. :) 

Here we go…

7 Ways to Pray During a Break-Up

The following are written in the perspective of praying for a friend, because that’s what I’ve been experiencing, but please feel free to adapt it to yourself :) 

When you or a friend is going through a break-up, it can be hard to know how to pray. Here are 7 ideas for ways to pray during a break-up.


1. Wisdom

Ask that God would grant your friend wisdom during her break-up.

If she’s the one who’s breaking up with her boyfriend, ask that God would give her wisdom in knowing what to say and how to respond to this situation.

If your friend is the one who is being broken up with, pray that she would have wisdom in knowing how to process her emotions and how to treat her ex.

Regardless of the situation, pray for wisdom for you friend.

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” -James 1:5 (NIV)


2. Peace

Ask God to give your friend peace about this situation and to calm the turmoil she’s likely feeling.

If she’s the one doing the breaking up, ask Him to give her peace to let her know if she’s making the right decision in ending the relationship.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” -John 14:27

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” -Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)


3. Healing

Pray that God would heal her broken heart. Even if the break-up happened for good reasons, heartbreak is probably still occurring.

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” -Psalms 147:3 (ESV)


4. Love and Support

Ask that God would surround your friend with His love. Ask that He would help you know how to best love your friend during this time. And pray that your friend would know she is loved.

Pray that your friend would be surrounded by a support system during this time. Ask that God would help her find support in her parents, other godly mentors, yourself, and/or someone else.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” -1 John 3:1a (NIV)

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” -Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV)


5. Joy

Pray for God to give your friend joy, and that she would find her joy in Him.

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.”
-James 1:2-3 (NIV)


6. Forgiveness

If your friend was hurt in anyway by her boyfriend or as a result of this break-up, pray that God would help her forgive him. Because, even if a relationship is ending and has no future, forgiveness is still right.

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” -Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)


7. Her Relationship with God

Pray that your friend would seek Jesus first always, but especially during this time. Ask that she would turn to God to be her one source of comfort. Pray that she would have a strong desire to read her Bible and to pray. Ask that she would grow closer to her Savior as a result of her break-up.

“O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you; my flesh faints for you, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.” -Psalm 63:1 (ESV)

These are the seven main things I prayed for my friends as they went through their break-ups. If you have anything else to add to this list, I’d love it if you’d drop it in the comments :)

Much love,