Tears stung at my eyes, threatening to spill over and run down my cheeks.

I reread the email: “…I am not content I am not happy I wish I was never a Christian then I would have found a mate instead of waiting and waiting…”

Oh sweet sister!

I blinked back the tears. And then my sorrow turned to anger- not towards this reader, but towards our enemy who made her wish she could trade her salvation for a husband.

This woman has been single her whole life. She is past the age of childbearing, and has never had a husband. I can’t even begin to imagine how she must feel.

Regardless of our age, I think all of us singles wonder, “What if I’m single forever???”

I’ve definitely thought that.

Before I started dating Caleb, this was definitely a recurring worry. Even now, while I’m dating Caleb, I wonder what will happen if we break up? What if I never find someone who would want to marry me?

But then I have to stop in my tracks and ask myself: Would that really be all that terrible? Would it be the end of the world if I were single my whole life?

No. It wouldn’t.

And you know why not? Because I have Jesus Christ in my life. Because of Him, I know I will be able to thrive if I am single forever- if I never get married.

It wouldn't be the end of the world if I were single forever because I have Jesus Christ in my life. I know I will be able to thrive if I never get married.

Remember when the devil tempted Jesus?

Satan tempted Jesus with bread when He was hungry, he tempted Jesus to throw Himself down from a height to see if God would save Him, and he tempted Jesus to bow down to him for power (See Matthew 4).

Jesus stood firm. He resisted the devil and didn’t trade what He knew to be God’s plan for a counterfeit offered by Satan.

What if the devil offered you a deal? “Deny Christ, sell your soul to me, and I will give you a husband.” Would you take it?

I don’t know about you, but I would run the other way. I can’t imagine my life without Christ in it, but I can certainly imagine my life without a husband… I’m living that life today, after all.

You know what, this “choosing between God and something else” doesn’t even have to be in relation to guys.

Every single day we have the opportunity to walk God’s way or walk according to secular standards.

Will we say yes to God’s best? Or say yes to what makes us feel good now?

I don’t believe that saying yes to God’s best means we will never marry. Nor do I believe that it guarantees us a husband. 

All I know is that if I’m following Jesus, He won’t lead me down a path that would be displeasing to Him. Sure, it may not be what I was hoping for, but it would be in the center of His will.

What about you?

Would you rather have Jesus or a husband?

…Okay, in all honesty, your answer might be “Both!!!” #Same.

But I challenge you to make up your mind now. Choose for yourself this day whom you will serve- the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, or the god of marriage?

“Now therefore fear the Lord and serve him in sincerity and in faithfulness. Put away the gods that your fathers served beyond the River and in Egypt, and serve the Lord. And if it is evil in your eyes to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”
-Joshua 24:14-15 ESV

Dearest friend, don’t wish you could trade your salvation for a husband. It wouldn’t be worth it in the end.

Related: Is my Singleness a Punishment from God?

2 thoughts on “I Would Rather have Jesus than a Husband

  1. Leah Grace

    This is amazing. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. But the thought has dawned on me as well, “What if it doesn’t work out?” This man that I do plan on marrying. But I came to the realization that he can’t define me. I need to be content in my life with just God and he’ll bless me in ways I never imagined. Its scary to think you may be alone, but in the least cheddar way, we really aren’t. Lol. Glad other people have felt this way and I’m not psycho, but also glad that you also recognize that God can be your husband also.

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