Not only are their so many unique circumstances surrounding the ladies who answered the question “Why are you thankful for singleness?” but there are also many unique answers as well.
I mean, sure, “I can have a better relationship with God,” and “I can get to know myself better,” are common themes through out the answers, but there is also so much more than that. So much honesty and thought have been put into these answers.
I think it’s interesting how two of the girls in today’s post admit that originally when they thought about this question their immediate response was “No way José!” {These responses haven’t been organized in any way other than the order that I received them, so I think it’s a God-thing that they both ended up in the same post.}
But anywho. If when reading the question, “Why are you thankful for being single,” you thought, “I’m not thankful!” then I want to reassure you- you are not alone.
And with that said, let’s get on to the responses :)
I originally thought, ‘How could I be thankful for my singleness, I’m miserable!” but then I realized that was my knee jerk reaction and what I am almost conditioned to feel.
When I truly ponder this question and take a moment to reflect on it, I can honestly hand on heart say- I am thankful for being able to have the ‘me time’ to really dig deep, discover and draw from my inner place what dreams and goals I want to achieve in this life.
I can just shut the door, tune out from the world and zone into my mind. Something that can arguably be done in a relationship, but I feel like without having to be mindful and there for someone in this season right now allows me to be able to do this freely and without distraction.
-Jacinta
Yes I am thankful for this time…. I was married & divorced. God is using this time to prepare me for the man He has for me. I believe God’s timing is perfect and we shouldn’t settle just to be with someone. There’s a big difference in being alone for a season and being lonely. I will wait for the man God has for me…..there will be no confusion or doubt, this I believe!
-Christine
I’ve been single for over a year now, and I’m totally okay with that. Due to the guy I was with, my body didn’t know that I wanted to save sex for marriage. But just looking at him, my body went nuts!! Inside, I felt lots of lust. I kept on telling myself that it was safer to save sex for marriage, and that is was what I wanted.
When we broke up, I had time to really look back, and realized that it was a good decision to fight against the lust. I am thankful for spending time with myself, working on who I am and who I am wanting to be. :)
-Mateah
Initially when I ask myself if I’m thankful for being single, my immediate response is NO, but when I really think about it, I am thankful for being single. Mainly because I am able to use this time building friendship with God and my friendships with other people. It gives me time to be rooted in Him before putting so much time and attention into a new relationship.
I believe that when God shows me the man He has chosen for me that I will reflect back on my time of singleness and think about the lessons I learned during this time and appreciate more so the time I’ve had with just me and God.
-Melinda
I’m thankful for my singleness because its allowing me to get to know me and to build a closer relationship with God. I have been focusing on everyone and everything else. It’s my time to figure out my likes and dislikes.
I took a solo trip this past summer. That was the beginning of my new venture. It wasn’t far from home at all, but something I had never done. It was very invigorating and freeing. I plan to take more trips in the future. Spending alone time frees my mind and allows me to have meaningful conversations with God.
-Stephanie
I am thankful for this season I’m in of being single!
I am a 48 year old mother of three who adored being able to be a stay-at-home mom for my children while they were young. They are all college/ high school age now so they don’t need me as much as before.
After my divorce four years ago, I hated spending time with myself because I realized I didn’t even know myself anymore.
Since then, I’ve started my own business, taken some college classes, moved 2,000 miles to be near the ocean, became a domestic violence advocate, work out six days a week and have gotten involved in ministry.
I followed my instincts and learned to hear what my soul was seeking … aka I learned to let the Holy Spirit guide me to become who God meant me to become.
I love my life. I miss having a special man in my life… sure! But I know I need this time to become the me I am meant to be at this season of my life. I want to be the best version of me for the man of my future but most of all I want to be the woman God knows I can be!
