Hello!!! I’m Diana. I’m a 30 year old girl from South Florida. I work in sales and for fun I like all things creative. I love journaling, writing letters, and making jewelry.
What’s your singleness story?
My singleness story is so tied to my salvation story that they go hand in hand.
Before I knew Christ I was always seeking approval and love from other people. This was especially true in my dating life. If I felt unloved or rejected in any way, it would lead me into a deep disappointment, bordering on depression.
I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t find fulfillment in life. I tried my best to change who I was and to improve upon myself, but everything left me feeling empty (think Solomon’s discourse in Ecclesiastes) it was all “vanity”, nothing fulfilling.
In this search for some type of healing from my string of disappointments and futile attempts to create happiness, I turned to God. Sure, I thought I knew God. I knew there was 
a God– somewhere out there in the universe. I had prayed to Him many times. Usually in the form of a grocery list: “God, if you would give me A, B ,C and D and also F and a little E, that would be great! Thanks!”. And I never understood why my prayers were never answered. Until I seriously started spending time with Him and reading His word.
I’m so grateful today that God put a wonderful friend in my life who was always inviting me to groups, Bible studies and church. Through this friend I joined a small group and after a really long time of reading the Bible and praying, I realized what my problem was. I was using people to fill a void that only God can fill.
In fact, one of the first things I felt God leading me to do when I was saved was to have a dating sabbatical. I didn’t go on dates for about two years. And it was so amazing! He brought me to a level of spiritual maturity in that time that I could have never imagined. I finally felt fulfilled and at peace.
What’s the best thing about being single?
The best thing about being single is the time I have to devote to God. I don’t think I would have as much time to study the Bible or serve if I was in a 
relationship so it’s definitely a time of growing in faith and serving God.
What’s your biggest struggle when it comes to being single?
My biggest struggle in this time of singleness is to not be discouraged. I have days in which I wonder if I’m going to be single forever, but then I remember how faithful God has been to me in every other aspect of my life and I know it’s just a matter of trusting in Him.
What’s one piece of advice you’d give your fellow singles?
My advice to other singles would be to not conform.
Singleness, for some reason doesn’t seem to have a positive connotation in the world. We have all of these jokes about crazy cat ladies and the like.
It’s not a bad thing. It’s not weird. Don’t feel pressured to be in a relationship just because everyone you know is in one. Be discerning and wait on God.
I don’t think we should consider singleness a stigma like society seems to do, but rather a time of training. There’s no promise land without a desert. Let’s be thankful in our time of singleness for the blessings God has given us and simply trust Him. He created us and knows what’s best for us.
Thanks for stopping by for this week’s edition of My Singleness Story. My Singleness Story is a series for singles, by singles. It’s a place for singles to have a voice and to share what they’re learning and struggling with during this season of life. It’s where we come together and learn we’re not alone. If you would like more information on how you can share your singleness story, you can find it here.
Read the My Singleness Story archives.
