“Mirror” ~Barlow Girls

Who are you to tell me

That I’m less than what I should be?
Who are you? Who are you? 
I don’t need to listen 
To the list of things I should do
I won’t try, no, I won’t try

People say that mirrors lie. That they distort the images they are reflecting. We blame mirrors and become angry at mirrors because they’re simply doing their job. We look into a mirror and see all of our imperfections. Our hair looks wind-blown. Our make up is smudged. Our clothes are winkled. We are not beautiful. We are imperfect. And we become crushed because of what the mirror says.
I think we posses unrealistic ideas of what physical beauty is. Magazines, commercials, Hollywood, ect. all tell us what beauty is and how we can look perfect.  “More make up. Straighten your hair. Do this. Do that. Only once you do all of this will you be beautiful. Only then will you be loved and accepted.”
It doesn’t help that the people saying these things look perfect. (And by perfect I mean airbrushed and photo shopped.)

It’s not even just the media who tells us these lies. Our well meaning friends and family can tell us them too. I have found over the years that whenever I wear more makeup than I normally wear and fix my hair semi-fancily, then my parents, other adults and my friends tell me, “You look so pretty.” It is so hard not to instantly say to myself “I look pretty! People don’t tell me I’m pretty when I don’t wear makeup. I guess I’m not pretty without makeup, and so maybe I should wear this much more often.” I have to be on constant guard so that I don’t feed myself these lies. 

The truth is, I (and you) look pretty with makeup on, but we also look pretty without it. Our beauty doesn’t come from us, or anything that we do to ourselves. It comes from God. God made us just how we are, and created us in his image; of course we’re beautiful. God doesn’t make anything that isn’t. 


Mirror I am seeing a new reflection
I’m looking into the eyes of He who made me
And to Him I have beauty beyond compare
I know He defines me

When we look into a mirror, we see our physical selves. We need to also look to God and grow closer to God so we can see ourselves as he sees us. 

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. ~1 Samuel 16:7

I will praise you because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. ~Psalm 139:14

Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothes. Instead, it should consist of what is inside the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God’s eyes. ~1 Peter 3:3-4

God looks at our inward selves; he is more concerned with how we love him and love others than the type of lip gloss we wear. In addition, our physical beauty reflects our inward beauty. If our insides (our minds and hearts) are ugly, then our overall countenance will be ugly, no matter how much makeup we smear on. 

Now, I don’t want you to get the wrong idea and think that I’m saying that all make up is evil and you should never style your hair. Of course not! I think wearing makeup and curling my hair is very fun, I just don’t do it every day. I’m just saying that our outer selves should be a reflection of our inner selves (and I believe that it will be, no matter how hard we try to disguise ourselves), and that makeup and hair products don’t solve an insecurity problem. If anything, they strengthen insecurity problems. Our insecurities need to be placed at the feet of Jesus so he can pick them up and make us whole.  

So, my challenge to you is to spend more time with Jesus and allow him to cultivate your inner self than you spend on your outer self. After all, our physical bodies will eventually die and decay, but our souls last forever.